Eek..You hate your engagement ring!

Picture this: the perfect guy gets down on one knee and surprises you with the perfect proposal at the perfect moment, but with a less than perfect ring. All of the romantic classics you’ve watched time and time again had not exactly prepared you for this scenario! It’s not as though he’s bought you an ugly hat or a frumpy jumper; this is your engagement ring and something you may well end up wearing every single day for the rest of your life.

 So, what do you do if you hate your engagement ring?

Is it okay to say yes to the guy and no to the ring? Here at The One Romance, we like to think so! That is, providing you follow our golden rules on how to handle the situation if you hate your engagement ring

 

Take your time

Avoid acting on impulse and immediately slating the ring, particularly if he’s still down on one knee! This is supposed to be one of the most exhilarating times of your life. Enjoy every second of being engaged and save the ‘hate your engagement ring’ conversation for a quiet moment once the dust has settled on your engagement.

 

Consider what you like about the ring

Before you break the news, spend some time reflecting on what you do like about your engagement ring. A jeweller might be able to make some cosmetic tweaks to the design to save you buying a new ring altogether.

 

Have the confidence to be honest

Ultimately, if you are planning on spending the rest of your life with this person, you should be able to tell them everything: the good, the bad and the ugly. You know him better than anyone so will know how best to handle the situation for the two of you.

 

Talk with sensitivity

Before saying anything else, ensure you acknowledge the thought and effort that went into him choosing the ring and express that you cannot wait to spend the rest of your lives together. Instead of saying that you absolutely hate your engagement ring, simply explain that it is not quite your style and propose some ways that you might be able to alter it as an alternative to returning it for good.

 

Don’t doubt your relationship

Finally, do not overthink the situation and fall into the trap of questioning how he could get things so wrong. Taste is so individual especially when it comes to engagement rings. And the fact that he did not get this quite right is certainly not an indicator that your future marriage is doomed!

 

 

Good luck! For more advice, drop us an email at info@theoneromance.com.

 

Lucy, The One Romance

 

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