Picture the scene: your other half casually mentions the ‘engagement’ word, but rather than experiencing unbridled joy just like the Disney films promise, you instantly feel sick and fearful at the prospect of one day uttering the words ‘until death do us part’. Surely if it was meant to be and he was Mr Right, you’d be over the moon, right?

Well no, not necessarily.

Thanks to every rom-com ever made and every pop song ever written, we have all been brainwashed into thinking that an engaged woman is a blissfully happy one without a care or hesitation in the world. But the truth of the matter is, agreeing to spend the rest of your life with someone is a huge commitment and, as such, it is perfectly natural to have reservations about saying ‘I do’, irrespective of whether or not he is ‘the one’.

Before jumping to the conclusion that your cold feet are a sign to call things off, spend some time figuring out exactly what is making you nervous.

 

Perfectly Rational Fears

Perhaps you have concerns about spending the rest of your life with the same person, or that their bad habits are going to drive you round the bend. Maybe you feel anxious about things ending in divorce. Or maybe you just worry you will miss the independence and the ‘not having to answer to anyone else’ that come with singlehood.

Well, despite what anyone tells you, these are perfectly common jitters and certainly not reasons to throw in the towel altogether. Talk to any of your friends who have got engaged and we can guarantee that  they felt the same way at some point. IT’S COMPLETELY NORMAL.

Here are some reasons why:

1. It could be nervous excitement. If you feel a proposal is iminent there is a chance those butterflies in your tummy could start coming on strong. Rather than panic that this is a bad sign, notice that it’s probably nervous excitement. You’re life is about to change….for the better! The person you are madly in love with want to be with you for life. And that’s a damn nice feeling. Butterflies and all.

2.It could be anticipation. A  but like nervous excitement, anticipation could be causing those nervous jitters. When is he going to do it? How is he going to do it? Will I like the ring? Will I cry? All of these thoughts are VERY normal for someone expecting a proposal (believe us, we know!)

We are always here to help at The One Romance so if you need any advice at all, contact us at info@theoneromance.com.

Lucy, The One Romance

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