He’s just proposed and you feel a flurry of emotion ranging from “this is too soon”, “I’m not sure if you’re the one” or possibly even, “I don’t love you back”.  You want to know how to say no and on  on top of that this guy is down on one knee patiently waiting for an answer .

Here’s  our tips on how to say no to a proposal

Ask Him Quietly to Stand Up

If you’re surrounded by a group of onlookers or possibly worse, family and friends, just quietly ask him to stand up and meet your gaze. This will help ease some of the awkwardness and will make him feel a little more comfortable as opposed to you raising your voice to say “no” while he’s still hanging out on one knee. Asking him to stand up will give him the cue that something is up without keeping him in an uncomfortable position.

How to say no to a proposal: Speak Privately

Go somewhere and talk alone immediately to clear up any rush of emotions or confusion for him. This is going to probably be an emotional conversation and you’ll be grateful and so will he that you did this in private. After all, the future of your relationship is nobody’s business but your own and he deserves your full attention and reasoning.

 

How to say no to a proposal: Consider How You’d Feel

Speak kindly and from the heart, truly think about what you’ll say before you say it. Proposals take weeks possibly even months to plan and he’s gone through a lot to ensure your happiness. Be kind to him and gracious when you give him your decision.

 

How to say no to a proposal: Just Say It

Don’t beat around the bush, and most certainly don’t say yes and quickly turn around and say no. Tell him everything, all the reasons why you aren’t comfortable at this moment with saying yes. Don’t hold back when it comes to your feelings, he deserves honesty now more than ever.

How to say no to a proposal: Accept He May Need Space

Understand that this will be very hard to hear and may take some time to recover from. Be whatever he needs you to be for him in the time following the “no”. Whether it still be a supportive girlfriend or maybe now just as a friend. Present the space and opportunity for him to come to you and talk things